I get really overwhelmed a lot. There are times when there is just to much going on around me. Most of the time I can’t walk away and people tell me to shut up or stop being sensitive. It’s becoming more often now though. What should i do? --Anonymous
Wow, that sounds really stressful, and like it’s probably overwhelming in and of itself.
Being overwhelmed a lot of the time is a perfectly valid feeling that a lot of people are dealing with right now. The world is so crazy and abnormal that it can be really overwhelming, or make you really stressed out. So I definitely understand where you’re coming from!
I think the best solution here is to talk to your parents/guardian, and explain that you feel overwhelmed a lot of the time, and that it’s too much to handle sometimes.
I would also recommend explaining that you need to walk away, or be by yourself sometimes, so that you don’t get too overwhelmed. I’m sure that your family wants you to be happy, and chances are, they just don’t know or understand how you’re feeling.
Not that them lashing out is okay. If/when you talk to them, you should also mention that it makes you upset/hurt when they tell you to shut up or stop being sensitive. Shutting down someone’s emotions like that is never okay, and it’s probably part of the reason you’re so overwhelmed. Emotional stress can build.
If you can’t talk to your parents/guardians, I would suggest talking to a friend, or a therapist, or someone else that you trust. Maybe they would be able to help you figure out what to do.
One thing you can try is this: Next time you feel really overwhelmed, and you need to be by yourself, and you’re with other people, say something like: “I’m feeling really overwhelmed right now, and I need some alone time.” And then just leave. That way, you’ve made your needs known, and your family will (hopefully) leave you alone.
Just remember: Feeling overwhelmed or stressed is perfectly okay, and there is nothing wrong with you or the way you feel. You need to put yourself first, and if that means walking out of the room sometimes, that’s 100% fine. Self-care is extremely important, especially right now, and you need to do whatever is best for you.
Some self-care ideas for when you feel really overwhelmed:
-Listen to calming music
-Drink some soothing herbal tea
-Write down your feelings in a journal
-Go outside and take a walk, or just sit on the porch. (Fresh air in general is usually helpful)
I hope my advice was helpful, and that you’re able to work something out that helps you feel less overwhelmed.