Worried about my friend

I’ve been pretty worried about my friend lately. I’m gonna call her S. So S and I are really good friends. You cannot separate us. So about a month ago, she told me that years ago, her grandparents passed. But none of her family was there for her when they passed, so she got depression. She actually started cutting herself. But then sometime last year, she stopped. I think she stopped because she met a girl that became her friend. But then her friend wasn’t that nice and didn’t do very good things. So S fell back into her depression. But she said that when she met me, she was able to stop cutting herself. I’m worried because I don’t want S to fall back into her depression 

I’m also worried about her for another reason. So, S’s parents are very strict and very controlling. Earlier today, she told me that once she tried to stand up to her parents, but it did not go well. I didn’t get the whole story, but it basically sounded like they beat her. 

I don’t know what to do. I feel like just walking up to her parents and yelling at them. But I’m obviously not going to do that. Any advice?

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  • I hear you a year ago I had the same problem for me as advise to you just try and be there for her you don't even have to say much just let her now that you care and your there for her and please please please tell a grown up even if she might not want you to please do it because the pressure of her well being shouldn't Leigh on you! Personally I ended up calling youth Welfare Office even though she told me not to but in the end it was a good decision the she stopped cutting her self and her perents stopped hurting her and actually later on were grateful that I called the youth Welfare Office
    So remember let her know that you truly care and tell a grown up and again remember it's not your responsibility it's awesome to be a great friend but don't pressure yourself. I hope this was somewhat helpful:)
  • That sounds like a really tough place for both you and your friend to be. First of all, I think it's really good that your friend was comfortable enough telling you all this. Too many people go through depression alone, and especially under the circumstances of her parents being like that, (if you're comfortable with her talking to you) I'd really recommend making it clear to her that you are there for her.
    Still, this doesn't seem like a situation to be taking lightly. With my experience of depression (my own and other people's) just because someone isn't depressed right now doesn't mean they don't need help, especially since S had been cutting herself. I really, really, really encourage you to tell someone, whether it's your parents, a teacher, or any other adult that knows your friend. When people are at risk of them self or others, it's extremely important to tell someone, even if that person doesn't want you to. It would probably help you feel better too, to know that you're not the only one thinking about your friend because that's a lot of pressure.
    Let me know if you want any more advice. Being depressed or knowing people who are is hard at any age, but it makes me really sad thinking of people your age being depressed. I was somewhat depressed on and off through elementary school, and the hardest thing about it was that people didn't really consider it depression. So anyway, I hope things work out, and I'm really glad you asked for advice since that sounds like a really difficult position to be in.
  • Show her that you care I don't have much experience with this type of stuff but you should make sure she knows you care and will be there for her always you should also tell your parents about this they could probably help her get help!
    -jay
  • This isn't great advice, but I suggest since your the best person in her life, that you stick by her. She'll have a smaller chance of falling into depression if you're a great friend
  • Tell your parents and recommend these websites to her for the bullying: www.ItGetsBetter.org and www.StopBullying.gov
    • Thanks :) She didn't get bullied though :P
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