Please Help!!!!

Ok, so I’m sorry to bore you with my problems, but I really need some advice.  Alrighty, here goes.  I still don’t have my period and I’m 13 and in 8th grade.  Legitimately all my other friends have it, even my friend that is a year younger than me.  I have all the symptoms that it’s coming, but it still hasn’t started.  I’m sick of people telling me that I should be grateful that I don’t have it yet.  What if I never get it?  What if I can never have kids?  Or I have a hormone imbalance?  It’s lonely out here with no one to relate to.  If people who are younger than me are “women”, what does that make me?

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  • I got mine at age 12 in grade 7, so 13 isn't a HUGE leap. I had a friend who didn't get hers until she was 14. It really depends on the girl.
  • I think it will just take time I have a friend that didn’t get hers till 13-14 I get it though I haven’t got mine yet either
  • I agree with everyone else, and I would also like to tell you that I got my period when I was 13. :) Also my teacher got hers when she was 16.
  • Chances are, there's nothing wrong with your body, though I totally understand the worry - you definitely aren't the only 13-year-old who hasn't had their period yet! I'm sorry all your friends have started theirs before you, I know how frustrating it can be to feel like you're behind your peers in some way. Also, while people often say getting your period makes you a woman, it really has no bearing on your maturity, and getting it doesn't mean you have to be a grown-up and stop being a kid. Even your friends who have their periods are still young and still growing up, same as you.
    • Thanks!
  • Ellie,
    I know how that feels, in fact I'm in the exact same situation. Just because you have or haven't had your first period doesn't mean you're better or worse than anyone else. Also you're you, don't let labels define you. My mom knew people who didn't get their period until they were 15, so I wouldn't worry to much. There is not really anything you can do so all there is for you to do is wait. You will get your period when your body is ready. And also your not alone, I'm sure there are a lot of people at your school who haven't gotten their periods yet either, you just haven't found them yet.
    • Thank you
  • Ellie-
    I wouldn't worry about it that much. I've gotten my period but I feel like I'm on the early side of it. Even though a lot of other people got theirs, it doesn't mean that it's bad you didn't. I want to ask you when your symptoms of getting your period started, because sometimes even though you got the symptoms, it doesn't mean that you'll be getting your period very soon. I really hope you do get it soon, and feel better about it as well.
    • Thanks! I got my symptoms about 1-2 years ago.
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