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Get it Out

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Since the original board seems to be gone, here's where you can now rant about whatever's bothering you, no matter what it is.

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  • ahh cramps
    • :( <33
      Want some distraction? Sorry >_<
      • ^^^
    • Oof, I'm sorry. <3
  • Incoming! Another one of Sebs useless rants :)

    I feel so depressed and awful. Instead of having days/times when I feel this way, it’s the opposite, I have little fractions of time where I feel happy and okay with myself. I hate the way I look, the way I act, even my presence on nmg. One of my best friends seems to be changing, or getting more distant from me, and I don’t know if it’s my fault or if she’s growing up and I’m not ready for that. Because I’m not.
    I just have this crawling, cringing, clawing feeling of wanting to peel myself out of my skin, I feel hot and suffocated and cramped and panicked a l l the time, the rest of the time I feel gray and emotionless, and I am always so unmotivated. And that isn’t all my fault, but I’m just so sick of the person that I am.
    My hygiene isn’t great, and even when I try it never seems to make a difference, I just feel gross and unloveable and fake.
    I haven’t made a full week of school in around a month. I want a job really badly, I want to eat better and shower everyday and do chores, I want to feel like I have some sort of purpose in my life, I want to feel more independent. My room is cluttered and awful, I always feel suffocated, I just want a breath of cold clean, fresh air, and I want it inside me, keep that feeling of calm happiness.
    And this isn’t even starting on gender stuff. I keep almost writing “Sophia” or calling myself “Sophia” not because it feels right at all, but I’m just so used to it. I have to deal with one kid who won’t use my name, he’s always been a god awful person but just, ugh. It’s jarring to hear someone refer to me as Sophia, I can’t physically say “I’m Sophia” and yet Seb/Sebastian feels so new and weird now, even though I’ve been using it for, closing in on two years. I feel like my relationships with my family are off, with friends too.
    I just want to be a new person. I want to be like the people I admire and love, who have just as many problems as I do but seem like they have their lives together, when I spend all day I’m not at school curled up with nmg, doing nothing with myself, feeling like a miserable person. I wish I had a medication that could bring back even the slightest bit of motivation, because I don’t have any, and haven’t for a long time. I just hate myself so thoroughly. I desperately want to dash into The Crews world, and fling myself into their arms and be one of them, and it feels so stupid but even just imagining that brings me to tears because I can’t be with my most genuine family.
    • Your rants are not useless!
      I'm so sorry, like Jay said I wish I had good advice but I am always here for you if you want to rant or anything <3 I know sometimes people don't believe it when people say this but you are absolutely amazing Seb, how you act, on NMG and off, and you are incredibly talented, please don't forget that <333
    • You are not useless, Seb. You are an amazing person who is having a hard time. I totally understand feeling suffocated by yourself. You described how I feel a lot of the time. I don't know how to help, but I can at least offer understanding.
      As for getting motivated, maybe try rewarding yourself by doing something you like after you do one of the things you are trying to make habits. Maybe making a list of things that you want to do or get better at for a day, and then not let yourself do anything else until you've finished it. But you don't have to start with big things. It can be a short list.
      I can't put into words how much I relate to that last part. I imagine myself with my own characters more than I imagine them by themselves. I think it's normal, because you've created them to be the kind of people you wish you had around you.
      Sorry if this didn't make any sense at all. I really hope things get better for you, and I'm always here if you need to talk.
      <333
      • ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ one thing that helps me sometimes is time boxing stuff, like do [not fun thing] for [number] minutes and then reward with [number] minutes of [fun thing]. I’m really sorry, love you so much
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