Friendship is generally a good thing. Not all friendships are good. Sometimes friendships are not healthy for one or both people. This blog post isn't about recognizing toxic friends or how to exactly go about cutting them off but about how to handle letting go of a toxic friend. It can cause a lot of complicated feelings that are hard to work through.
You don't have to be happy about cutting someone off. Even if it's good for you it can still be hard. It's very likely that a toxic or unhealthy friendship wasn't all bad. You probably had fun with that friend sometimes. Sometimes a friendship that ends isn't even toxic but you just outgrew each other. It's natural to need some time to grieve the end of the friendship.
On the other hand you might not feel sad. This is also normal. You might have some feelings of guilt for not feeling bad. You don't have to feel bad for ending a friendship. You don't owe people your friendship and you don't owe toxic people your time. Sometimes the end of friendship is the most freeing thing possible. It's okay to not like toxic former friends. It's okay to be angry at the people who hurt you.
You probably aren't going to feel exactly one way or the other. It's most likely going to a lot of mixed emotions. Depending on how toxic the friendship was it might be more in the positive or negative direction.
Going back to toxic friends is almost always a bad idea. I can understand the appeal when they were one of your only friends or when you're lonely. It's not worth it. They will very likely not have changed and become someone that you can have a healthy friendship with. When you feel tempted to go back remember that you cut them out of your life for a good reason.
They might try and become your friend again. They might be truly sorry and apologize. In some cases you might be able to have a healthy friendship if toxic behavior has truly been changed. That doesn't mean you have to be friends with them. Even if they're truly sorry and have changed their behavior. You don't have to be friends with that person. Them changing doesn't mean their past behavior never happened. It's okay to say no to being friends. You don't owe anyone your friendship. Sometimes you can't forgive someone because what they did caused too much pain. Sometimes even if you do forgive someone you don't want to be their friend and that's okay.
Whatever complicated feelings you have on the end of friendship are natural and valid. They can be positive or negative but will very likely be a mix. It's important to handle the negative emotions in a healthy way and to let yourself benefit from the positive ones. In the long run cutting out toxic friends is better for everyone involved even if it can cause complicated emotions. You don't need to have toxic people in your life. Surrounding yourself with positive people and removing the toxic ones is the right choice.